Hugging is Good Medicine!

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I spent a good part of my life afraid of hugs.

I would freeze up, keep my arms straight down, hands out and hold my breath.  Many, many times I would suffer a small panic attack while held by someone else.  My mind would scream, “RUN!”  It took great effort to force myself to be, I guess at the time what felt like, vulnerable.  I always got through it with a quiet determination that everything was going to be fine; those seconds felt like an eternity.

I never really understood why I suffered from being hugged; I imagine reasons and everything I think up inevitably feels sad.  I guess that was a time when I didn’t trust that those hugs were meant as a good thing.  That was then.

Now my life is filled with hugs that keep me connected to an array of beautiful spiritual beings.

I love hugs.  I’m now the hugger.  I reach out and hug people and I do so energetically.  I’ve had experiences where someone looks at me with “want and sadness” in their eyes asking if it’s okay to hug me.  I open up my arms and take them in.  What I receive in return is better than mere words can explain.  Those few seconds make my entire day!   Sometimes I feel the stiffening, the hesitation.  I smile to myself; I know it feels uncomfortable but I also know that the human experience of a compassionate touch is a good thing and one that is sorely lacking in many lives.

Hugs feel like an instantaneous little gift of love passing from spirit to spirit.  That feeling is a small reminder that we are all connected at a profoundly deep place so far removed from the struggles we put ourselves through.

Hugs are our way of showing there is someone out there that wants you to be well.  Truly an important reminder as we traipse along caught up in our day to day thoughts about life.

Come by sometime and I’ll give you the best hug!  I’ll even throw you a smile to let you know that I get it and it’s going to be okay.

Life is after all a series of unfortunate thoughts about stuff that never really mattered mixed in with moments of miraculous connections helping us to stay grounded and to feel loved!

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About Marian

When I was barely three years old I was given to a step-mother by my father along with my five brothers and sisters. She brought into this new family her own two small children; the eight of us were all very young. My new mother along with my father decided how best to raise all of us; this included violent and abusive punishments and inappropriate ideas of right and wrong, including alcoholism and infidelity on my father’s part. My mother was particularly angry with me, I have no idea why but I made up that it’s because my father favored me over all the others, most importantly her own children. Whether this is the truth doesn’t really matter anymore as it was a long time ago. I left home the day after my eighteenth birthday which coincides with the last time she laid an abusive hand on me. Unfortunately, I took all the negative feelings I’d developed about myself based on my upbringing with me and proceeded to find and cultivate one bad and abusive relationship after another until, and without a another thought about it, I stopped the madness when I was about 35 years old. I’m now in my late 50’s with two grown daughters and four grandchildren. I have a degree in Social Work, I’m a certified teacher of The Three Principals, a counselor for victims and perpetrators of domestic violence and I worked more than seven years with homeless men and women diagnosed as severely mentally ill, addicts, and victims of every type of heinous crime against human beings. I’m married just over 21 years to a loving man who supports me emotionally and, now, financially. He believes I have a wonderful calming insight to share with others who are survivors of their lives just like me. That’s how I see myself now, a survivor of my own life. I will discuss empowering insights that were shared with me regarding how we innocently see the world and how we can easily choose to see and feel differently about everything. Not just everything around us but more importantly about who we are. We are all unknowingly living our lives as if there are no other choices. Yet daily deep within each of us we hope there’s something better and we spend countless hours looking for just that. I have a few ideas as to how you can let all the sadness, frustration and anger go allowing the essence of who you are take hold. My perspective is positive, my hope is boundless and my belief is secure. I listen without condemnation. I will always direct you back to where all emotional issues rest in a positive and compassionate way. There is no anger in me, I do not seek to avenge the past and I live now in this moment rejoicing that I exist today to enjoy the gifts I’ve been given. We are all powerful, unlimited and are creations of pure Love! Thank you for visiting with me, I truly hope you will find what you’re looking for and if not, let’s talk! Marian